°Bored Out of my Mind°

Hello Beautiful People ❤

Hope you are all doing well and enjoying this gorgeous spring weather! Here in sunny California its almost as if we've jumped to Summer....Spring is non-existent in this State haha

I love being in California, but I tell you I am so bored and tired of sitting in my apartment doing nothing but clean and cook. I am 20 years old cannot! I wanna go out and do things...exciting things and enjoy my life before starting a family! I know I'm married, but my husband is more than willing to be adventurous with me ❤

I would also like to find a hobby. I have always wanted to do Scrapbooking, but its so expensive and unfortunately that has never been an option. I would also love to enter the world of Photography, but again, its way too expensive! 😒
I'm lost here people!! And I wanna start doing something fun and exciting!!
If any of you know anything exciting and think I would love to do, please drop down your thoughts below! 😊

°So Much Has Happened°

Hi everyone!

Wow! Its been a while and I hope you are all doing well and enjoying the gorgeous Spring weather that is working its way through the country 😊

I, on the other hand, have moved to California to be with my husband 💜 he was supposed to be getting deployed again in July after our wedding, but he is having surgery on his neck and isn't going anymore so I am here to be with him during this scary and hard time.

Steven has 2 herniated discs and is in excruciating pain, has been for a couple months now and I tell you its not only frustrating for him, but it is for me too. As a wife, I get emotional because I cant help him 😞 he sleeps a lot, or sometimes cant sleep at all and to get his mind off the pain or to at least try and get his mind off the pain, he plays video games or plays on his phone and I feel alone more than I did in Texas, but its not like I'm mad at him, just wish he would talk to me a little more about it.

Anyway...I'm loving living here in California with my love 💙 its been hard, but I'm loving being a wife 😍

Meet our baby boy...Tater 💜😍
Steven got him for me to keep my company while he's at work and to help with my anxiety. He is my whole heart and I love him to absolute death hehe
He is almost 3 months old and weighs 20.5 lbs! 😳 big boy right?!

This is my gorgeous little family! 💙💜

So happy and so looking forward to the future!

I hope you are all well and I would love to know what you're all up to! 😊

{...Starting To Feel Great...}

Good Afternoon Sweeties

Today has started off great!! I woke up at 6 AM this morning which never happens because I am usually one who sleeps until non or 1 PM ( by the way...not really proud for admitting that on my blog for all to see ) anyway...I feel amazing!

I really don't mean to sleep in till late hours of the morning, but seeing as I don't have much to do during the day except for clean and keep the house form burning down, I figure why do I need to up so early? I know it's bad and I'm starting to get out of that habit! I have to!

This morning I have been typing up and writing down things I need to get done while I am still at home as well as things I still need to do for my wedding in June. Sometimes I think I have everything done, but then something else always pops up x_x so today I have been typing up daily planners and am starting on a checklist for my wedding planning and plans on how to get those things done!

As you can see...I have a few things overdue. Okay...a lot of things overdue! Haha but that is why I am starting to write things down and I need to start remembering that I have this list on my phone!
If any of you are planning a wedding or a friend is having a wedding soon you can get this app on your phone or tablet called WeddingWire.

{...Being a Brand New Military Wife...}

Good Afternoon Blog Family

I hope you are all doing well and keeping warm this winter. It has been insane here in Texas which is a shocker...I don't know if it's because we're here, maybe that's just our luck lol I know in Idaho where my in-laws live it has been snowing like crazy! I'm talking about 3 Ft of snow if not more, the State has actually gone into a state of emergency due to the heavy snow. So where ever you all may be, stay warm and stay safe on the roads out there.

So today's post is going to be about becoming a brand new military wife and what to expect and what not to expect. I know I haven't been married for a month yet, but in the 4 weeks I've been married I have learnt so much and had to deal with a lot so far... some of you might agree with me and some of you might not, but I do know that if there are any military wives that read my blog there might be a few things we can agree on.

::: Getting Over Any Fear or Anxiety :::

I suffer from anxiety/depression, something I have been meaning to sort out and start becoming my old self again. I am also a very shy and quiet person, not one to get out of my box or comfort zone which is not very good, but also not my fault especially being born and raised in South Africa. I have been sheltered my whole life there and I never really got the chance to get out into the world because of the dangers that lurk in my home country. One thing about being a brand new military wife is to suck up the fear and just get things done!! I do not like making phone calls and talking to people because of the fear of sounding stupid, but lately I have had to just get out of my shell and do what needs to be done. It hasn't been easy and it's not looking to get easy anytime soon so might as well just get used to it!

::: No Time for Drama :::

Steven and I are amazing together, but we are also the worst at getting along haha we fight about everything and anything no matter how big or small. Now in the beginning of it all with him trying to figure out our lives there and me trying to figure our lives out here, there has been some tension and fighting due to the frustration and willingness to get things done. I hate fighting with him and especially when we're apart because it just makes the distance that much harder to deal with, so we try to cut back on the drama and just try to go about doing things in a calm, loveable fashion LOL if that makes any sense at all.

::: Learning That it's Not About You Anymore :::

It's been so hard to remember that I am not alone anymore and that what I do does effect my husband. It's a very weird feeling, but at the same time I love it. It's also hard knowing that if I do something wrong or stupid, it will show up on his name too.


These are just a few things, and I'm pretty sure it will add on as the years go by and I will make sure to keep you all updated on the new things I've learned and had to overcome being a military wife.

Well that it for this post, I hope you all have an amazing day further <3

God Bless you all!

{...Extremely Hard Day...}

Good evening friends

So nothing interesting has been going on since the last time I was on here until today. Lets just say I haven't even been married for one month and Steven and I are already going through some issues. Please tell me this is normal with newly weds, or newly wed military couples because I am trying to hold on and I don't know if I can. I love Steven to death, but the disrespect we give each other and the constant tit-for-tat thing is hurtful and tiring, not to mention the name calling sometimes 😢 Some of you might be reading this and saying that we got married too soon, or you're thinking that this is a sign that we are just not meant for each other....I don't know, but I am holding on as long as I can. I keep telling myself its because of the distance and we're both frustrated because we can't be together... whatever the reason, I Pray God pulls us through this dark patch and I ask for you to all Pray for us too. 💑💍

I knew being a wife wasn't going to be easy, especially to a man like Steven. He is stubborn and hard headed and goes through moods like no one I have ever seen before. One minute he is a total sweetheart... loveable, kissing, hugging, etc... then the next minute, its like a switch and he becomes this person who doesn't care about how he makes you feel or if he broke your heart, but like I said I love him and he is a sweetheart most of the time just when he goes into to monster-mode, you know you better get the tissues out. I hope I am not the only one that goes through this with my husband.... if anyone has any advice on how we can resolve this and stop arguing and fighting.....I would love some advice!

Anyway.... besides Steven and I going for each others throats ..... I spent the whole day trying to figure out medical business and making appointments for me to finally go and see doctors about all the things that have been going on with me. If you have been reading my blog for a while you will know that I have so many medical issues with me at the moment, its not even funny. I have kidney issues, ovary issues, other feminine issues that I feel I don't need to mention, my feet have problems, and I have TMJ (Lockjaw) so today has been a day to try and figure all of that nonsense out so I can finally start feeling better.
Also Steven has been trying to get an apartment for us and needs all of the necessary documents in order to get it and not only copies..... notarized copies and apparently no one in my little town or in the city do. They dont do notaries at the banks for non members..... usually they would give a fee for non members to get documents notarized, but no one I spoke to today did. Thankfully the bank that my parents are with notarize documents for non members and so I will get all of that done and dusted on Monday and send it off to Steve so that we can get our apartment.

I have to admit, I am pretty excited to finally start my life and live by my own rules. I have been going through some doubt and worry because I don't know how I'm gonna be able to function not being able to see my parents and brother everyday, but I guess that's the harshness of growing up.... mommy and daddy can't be there to hold your hand anymore.

{...Happy New Year...}

{2017}

 

Happy New Year everyone!

I know I am a day late and for that I apologize, yesterday I had to say goodbye to my love yet again 😢 and probably won't see him again until June which is the month of our wedding 💒

I am hoping to see him in March though for his birthday, but looks like we will have to see where time and money leads us.

 

So as I was saying... Happy New Year everyone! This year will hopefully be a great year for you all 😊 I know a lot of people who have said that 2016 was one of the worst years they've had, some have said it has been one of the worst years they've had in a while and I can honestly vouch for that!

2016 has been a difficult year for myself, my family and my husband but it has also been a year full of joy and love 😍 it was the year I got engaged and married the love of my life, the year my sister and brother-in-law welcomes their precious baby boy into this world and Blessed both Steven and I with our first little nephew 😍 , my husband and I have conquered a deployment and become stronger and closer as a couple, and not to mention we moved closer to family at the beginning of 2016 😊

 

So yes this year has been difficult, but it has also been a year of Blessings and love 💑

Now as my Tia did, I am going to go over this year in this post to remember 2016 and to remember all the struggles and lessons that have been taught.

 

 

{February}

"So I've delayed posting due to Steven being home, packing for our move, and just trying to live life to the fullest at this point. I know that non of this is an excuse to stop blogging but I am only 19 and still have my whole life ahead of me."

 

{April}

"A lot has been going here on my side...okay maybe not a lot considering I haven't applied for a job yet, but just as I was about to, I received some amazing and exciting news....!

I am going to be an Aunt!!!"

 

{November}

"Yes I am apologizing again for the 1000th time...I am sorry I haven't been on my blog, life has been extremely hectic, (when hasn't it been hectic? Haha) but I am back!! Unfortunately I have to type up this post and future posts up on my phone because I no longer have a working laptop, so I've been trying to figure out how it works on the phone and its actually not that bad....I will make do! 😊"

 

{December}

"Wow! Can you believe December us here already? Seems like we were just starting 2016 off...CRAZY!!"

 

{...Oopsie...}

So I didn't go through with the Blogmas like I wanted to, but with my man here, I have been spending as much time with him as I possibly can <3 unfortunately he leaves this Sunday and its a bit of a bitter, sweet feeling. We have both gotten a taste of what life would be like together and I must say, we can both agree its not all fairytales and rainbows LOL I love him with all my heart, but with us being together every minute of everyday for 3 weeks.... we have not been the best of friends lately 😣 but I can tell you, my heart is absolutely breaking knowing I have to say goodbye to him in just a few days.

So I'm gonna let you all in on a little secret..... Steven and I did get married while he was here 💒 with him being in the military, it was easier to get married now to get a little Headstart on our lives....I'm sure if you're military and you're reading this, you'll understand. We will still be having our wedding in June... nothing has changed just needed to get that done so that our lives can get a good Headstart 😊 and I know I've already said that...I apologize haha

My awesome Tia also took our engagement photos while he was here 😍 and I am absolutely in love with how they turned out!
What do you guys think?

So that is my update... again I apologize for missing out on my blogmas 😢
I hope you're all doing well and I would love to hear how your Christmases went 😊🎄

Blogmas 2016 - Day Thirteen { Christmas Cards }

Good Evening Friends!! ❤

Hope you are all well and keeping warm on these cold days...I'm freezing and keep snuggling up to Steven to keep me warm haha thank goodness he doeant mind 😊 he's such a sweetheart and I am really enjoying his company ❤

Anyway....onto day 13 of ourBlogmas journey which is unbelieveable, the month just seems to be flying by 😐

So about Christmas Cards....I have never sent anyone christmas cards, last year was actually the first year I sent out christmas cards and I loved it ❤

They had a gorgeous Christmas village shining under the big moon on christmas night with Santa flying in his sleigh over the village 🎄

Everyone loved the cards and I was thinking of doing it again this year....so I guess we'll see 😊

Blogmas 2016 - Day Twelve { Party Christmas or Family Filled Christmas? }

Christmas has always been about surrounding yourself with family and just enjoying each others company....in my family at least ❤

This year we are spending Christmas Eve at my aunt and uncles so that would be.....a loud Christmas! 😂 We aren't a lot of people yet there is a lot of laughter and we're loud talkers haha so definitely loud Christmas! 🎄 which is fine by me! 😊❤

Blogmas 2016 - Day Eleven { Stocking Stuffer Ideas }

Hello fellow bloggers!

I am so sorry I missed yesterdays blog and am only doing it now, but Steven flew in yesterday and we have just been hanging out and enjoying each others company, so again I am so sorry for the late post! ❤

So this is just gonna be a quick post...we don't really do the stocking stuffers, never did that until our first year here in the States, my aunt and uncle actually filled up our stockings and told us it was little gifts from Santa 🎅

I think its a really cute tradition and I would love to do it with my little family one day ❤

Blogmas 2016 - Day Ten { Real or Artificial Tree? }

Hey everyone!

It is Saturday!! And I am not doing too good 😒 I am having a horrible stabbing pain on my left side, especially when I take feel breaths...was told it could be Kidney Stones and I'm praying it isn't, but lately I have been having issues with my kidneys and my bladder...dont know if its the cold weather or what 😒 so hopefully this will pass soon because not only am I sick and tired of having this issue, but my amazing fiancee is flying in tomorrow and I dont wanna be in pain on the way to pick him up from the airport...after all it is a 2 hour drive 😖

Anyway...onto more positive things, lets do our post for Day Ten of our Blogmas which is...do you have a real or artificial tree for Christmas? I have an artificial tree...we've always had artificial trees 🎄 the only times we had real trees was when we first got to the States, my Tia and Uncle Curt got a real tree and that was the first time I have ever decorated and had a real Christmas tree...the smell is what I fell in love with most 😍 because who doesnt love the smell of pine?? 🎄❤

The second time we got a real tree was last year, when the 4 of us had our own home and we thought we would try the real tree....never again! Lol too much mess and we didnt know what to do with it after, how to get rid of it 😐 so we are perfectly content with our artificial tree 😊🎄

What kind of tree do you guys prefer? 😊🎄